Limited or Universal Atonement? (1)(Hebrews 9:23-28; 10:11-18 COD Head 2 Article 3, 8)

The Reformed position on Christ’s death on the cross is probably not the majority view in Christianity.  If this position is held by a minority then what basis would people have to hold it? How do we see that really any conservative Christian believes in a limited atonement?  What is more, how can the Reformed definition of a limited atonement actually teach a very gracious God?

Blindly Following a Puppeteer? (Jeremiah 31:31-34; Romans 5:1-11 (COD Head 3,4 RE 6; LD 7)

One of the criticism of the Reformed faith is that if God chooses us then our wills are set aside.  This means that we become mere robots of puppets who follow the one who pulls our strings.  I guess my first reaction to this is if this criticism is true then I am not guilty for my sin.  So, this would present a huge problem because God does not tempt us to sin.  So, how can I preached a Reformed theology with such a glaring criticism and potential problem?